The Unseen Lounge

Sex is the gateway to life

The East Midlands premier ENM, Poly, Kink & LGBTQ+ social event.

Our events provide a venue for like-minded sexy, kinky and amazing people from all ends of the lifestyle to come together in a relaxed environment to meet, have a drink and get to know each other.​

Our goal is to support the ENM, Poly, Kink & LGBTQ+ community in any way we can from socials, speed-dates, icebreakers and parties to help normalise our swinging lifestyle in mainstream life.​

Why We created the Unseen Lounge.
The Unseen Lounge was really born out of an absence, My wife and I had recently moved to the east midlands and didn’t really know that many people, we realised that some of the best people we knew were the ENM, Poly, LGBTQ+ and Kink communities and figured we would go to a couple of social events and make some new friends…… and there wasn’t any. So, in the absence of being able to go to someone else’s events, we decided to create our own.


We knew that we DIDN’T want to host at a ENM club, not because they are bad places but because we wanted this to be a real social event and unfortunately at a club, there is a perception that anyone who talks to you, wants to get you naked. We knew that we wanted to be open for the whole community, regardless of age, body type, Gender identity or anything else.


Too many social events we were aware of had criteria to join. (Send a picture, are you hot enough, young enough etc.) That’s just not us. We figured, who are we to tell you who YOU find attractive. We started out small for our first event, 60 or so people came, and we still speak with and have ongoing relationships with people who came to our very first event.


"The Unseen Lounge now attracts between 150-200 people for each event"

And we try to do things bigger and better each time. It is important that these events feel like EVENTS, things not to be missed. We have hired opulent venues, had prize draws for sexy items worth hundreds of pounds, Hotel suite stays, Photographers, performers and of course what makes the unseen lounge what it is, the wonderful people that attend.


The Unseen Lounge is a place for the community to normalise the lifestyle without ever outing anyone to what we are or who we are, We remain Unseen to the world but, we are a community who see AND support each other. Join us.