Sapiosexuals feel sexual attraction due to their partner’s intellect. How does sapiosexuality express itself and are you perhaps sapiosexual yourself? We bring light in these and more questions about the eroticism of intelligence in this article.
What does it mean to be sapiosexual?
The term sapio is derived from the Latin verb sapere, which means "to be wise", but also "to know" and "to understand". For sapiosexuals, the focus in their partner choice lies in the intelligence of their counterpart. Intellectually stimulating conversations are like an exciting foreplay for sapiosexuals.
Which does not mean that a person's appearance completely takes a back seat. As with most people, a certain degree of physical attraction must be present in order to be interested in a person on an erotic level. When intellect and optics meet, a sapiosexual’s heart swells!
However, sapiosexuality is not to be understood as a sexual orientation. Sexual orientations are defined by someone's (sexual) interest depending on the gender of the other person. Sapiosexuality says nothing about whether you are, for example, straight, gay or bi.
Sapiosexuality is a preference. The attraction occurs in response to a person’s intellect. Physical appearance or gender identity can also play a role for the sapiosexual.
Am I sapiosexual?
Answer the following three questions and find out if you might be sapiosexual yourself.
1. Do you find small talk boring?
When dating, you prefer deep topics instead of superficial small talk? You may even feel sexually aroused when a person is articulate and has a good general education? This may indicate that you are sapiosexual and find intelligence to be erotic.
Even after several months and years, when the initial infatuation wears off, the connection between you and your partner is still there: The conversations between you two don't stop and you enjoy the fact that you can talk to each other on a high level.
2. Physical appearance comes second for you?
Your counterpart did not particularly strike you visually at first, but impressed you later with eloquence and humour? Especially if you are sapiosexual, the appearance can be rather secondary for you.
An extreme form of this would be if people who define themselves exclusively by their appearance turn you off. For you, the intelligence of the other person is attractive. If this is missing, you are not interested.
3. Intellect turns you on?
You feel a sexual tingle when your counterpart unpacks facts and shows off their intellect? This is typical for sapiosexual persons.
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Of course, the here listed aspects are not universal. Sapiosexuality can be felt and lived differently! As always, exceptions can confirm the rule. Only you determine how you want to live your relationships.
However, if the shoe fits with some points and you fancy especially smart people, then it is worthwhile to take a closer look at the topic. If you’re curious and want to learn more about the topic of sapiosexuality, then dive deeper into the JOYclub community and exchange ideas!
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