Always having romantic sex with just one partner can seem boring to many people. Sometimes they need a special thrill. Some find it in what's known as "wife sharing." Our author, Christine Janson, has spoken with couples who indulge in this particular preference and explored the allure of it.
What exactly is wifesharing?
This term comes from English and means that a man enjoys sharing his partner sexually with other men – naturally with the woman’s consent.
There are different variations that show subtle differences. Classic wife sharing is characterised by both partners usually choosing the solo men for a shared sexual experience. The partner watches or participates actively. Dominant wife sharing is intensified by an SM component. Here, the male partner's role is more active. He selects the men who "use" his wife. The partner assumes a very submissive role – which is a special attraction for many couples.
An interesting distinction is to cuckolding. In this variation, the woman is also shagged or dominated by another man, but the original partner is in a submissive position. He enjoys being humiliated and has to watch or be told how the lover pleases his wife. If a couple publicly invites others to a wife-sharing event in a club, a threesome can quickly turn into a gangbang, where many men shag a woman or receive oral and manual satisfaction from her.
Wife sharing is not secret infidelity and should not be confused with a swinger experience, where partner swapping usually takes place. Ok … those were the technical terms. But now it gets exciting!
Intimate moments with your partner despite wifesharing
In a bar in Frankfurt, I arranged to meet a very interesting couple who had already told me that they particularly enjoy wife sharing and male surplus. I call them Sonia and Peter because they don't want their real names used.
Sonia is a very attractive woman in her late forties, with large dark eyes and a sensual mouth. At first glance, you can see that she embraces her femininity, as her beautiful large breasts are well accentuated by her low-cut blouse. Her husband is initially sitting at the bar while we sit at a small table and chat alone. "Why are you so drawn to wife sharing?" I ask her. "I love sex," Sonia begins our conversation. "And one man just isn't enough for me. Peter knows that, and because he loves me, he wants to make me happy."
We dive right into the topic, and I learn that the men are either chosen together or by her alone. "We don't take the separation between wife sharing and cuckolding that seriously," she tells me. "I like being dominant, but I also enjoy being led and used." "Does Peter participate when you meet other men in a club?" I want to know. "Peter sometimes joins in, but he mainly enjoys looking after me. He makes sure every man uses a condom, and sometimes, when I'm in a trance and lose track of time, he reminds me to take a break and brings me something to drink. I cherish the intimacy we share during such club nights. While other men shag me, he sometimes looks me directly in the eyes, which I find incredibly romantic. There's a deep connection between us that I only share with him at that moment."
"One of my most intense experiences was at a gangbang during a private event held in an old warehouse at the East Harbour," she tells me. "My eyes were blindfolded, and I was led naked upstairs. I had to kneel and was then used anally by several men for hours. Not seeing anything made every touch particularly intense, and I didn’t know what the man behind me looked like. It was a special thrill for me. I enjoy making men happy. In clubs, I'm quite popular because I also let men join in who might not usually get a chance. Often, I have a cock in my mouth, two in my hands, and get fucked both anally and vaginally at the same time. I love being so desired."
The more Sonia talks about her extraordinary club experiences, the more amazed I am. I can't even manage to take a single cock anally, and just the thought of it makes me cringe … for Sonia, however, that's where the fun begins.
Mansharing - a slightly different way to seduce your man
Peter looks over at us expectantly, and we ask him to join us. "My husband is the best!" says Sonia, lovingly stroking his knee. Peter smiles happily, and I believe they genuinely love each other. Sharing such extreme experiences and allowing each other to be themselves in love is quite special.
"It also turns me on to watch my husband with another woman or to instruct him to find a prostitute and fuck her." That would be mansharing, I think. "What do you like about it?" I ask Sonia. "I think my husband has a beautiful body. I love his slim figure, and it excites me to watch him have sex with another woman or even just to imagine it."
"Recently, I was in Singapore for work," Peter takes over. "Sonia instructed me to go to Orchard Road and find a pretty prostitute. Then I had to give her a detailed report at home, describing the positions we tried. That excites her a lot and me too." I could listen to them for hours, and Sonia is truly a natural talent, clearly conveying how much she enjoys such unusual sexual experiments.
Is there an experience so beautiful or unusual that you remember it to this day?" I ask. "We were once in Mallorca," Peter recalls, his eyes lighting up with excitement. "We met a friend in his finca and spent a few days together. It was a wonderful experience because we two men got along right away and had a lot of fun with Sonia during those days." Sonia also remembers something: "On our last holiday in Thailand, we had a ladyboy, as they call transvestites in Thailand. It was a strange situation because he had a cock and fucked me from behind while Peter stood behind him and took him anally. A crazy scene, I tell you." "When women want to attend a wife-sharing event for the first time with several men, what advice would you give them?" I ask Sonia. The answer comes quickly: "Just let go and turn off your mind – that's the most important thing!"
Share your Wife – Erotic Events Where Things Get Hot
I was curious and wanted to learn more about wifesharing events. During my research, I came across a very nice couple on JOYclub: Boschi and Heidi, who represent themselves with the private profile "verdorbeneEngel" and also offer spectacular events out of personal passion.
Boschi immediately makes a sympathetic impression on the phone and patiently and very openly answers all my questions for almost two hours. "I was interested in wifesharing events even when I was younger," he tells me. "When I was single, I attended erotic club events as a solo man and had really great sex." Naturally, I'm curious if his wife finds it as exciting as he does. "Well, to be completely honest, she does it more for me. I am her Dom, and she wants me to showcase and dominate her. However, she later often says that it really turned her on to be fucked by several men."
"How did you come up with the idea to host your own events?" I ask. "We didn't quite fit into any scene," Boschi tells me. "In the SM scene, having sex isn't viewed favorably, and in the swinger scene, we missed the erotic power dynamics that are also part of our relationship. So, at some point, we decided to offer the exact events we would like to attend ourselves."
I learn that up to 300 people can come together in one night, with 100 tickets available for couples and 100 tickets for solo men. At some events, the ratio of women to men is also 1:4. The solo men are carefully selected, and their profiles and photos are thoroughly checked in advance. "We want the ladies to be satisfied," Boschi grins.
"We've also come up with a few special things to get the guests in the mood for the event even at home. For example, the ladies can fill out a preference form where they specify exactly what they like and what they don't. They can check off whether they want to hold a cock, if they enjoy giving blowjobs, or if they are available for anal sex. These forms, along with the woman's photo, are then sent to the registered solo men, and the first scenes start playing out in their heads." Personally, what I particularly like about people with an SM inclination is that the erotic-sexual experience often begins even before physical contact. I find this to be a special thrill and it intensifies the feelings.
No One is Completely Free of Jealousy
"We have often found that people are a bit shy and need a little guidance," Boschi tells me. "For this reason, every lady receives a set of wristbands at the beginning of the evening, which she can then give to solo men who particularly appeal to her. Each man must accept the wristband, but whether he redeems it later in the night is up to him," Boschi laughs. I think this idea is fantastic, and I feel a slight tingle between my legs. I'd love to attend such an event myself, it flashes through my mind.
"Are you never jealous when you watch your partner with other men?" I ask. Boschi hesitates a little and I appreciate his openness. "No one is completely free of jealousy, in my opinion," he says. "Not even me. There have been nights when I didn't want my wife to make small talk with her sex partners at the bar afterward. That's why we've agreed not to kiss or exchange affection with others."
By the way, Boschi and Heidi do not participate in their own events because it's important for them to have an overview of what's happening and to intervene if necessary if someone is not feeling well and reality turns out different from their imagination. "Once, there was a couple where the man was the driving force behind the wifesharing. However, he didn't expect his wife to enjoy it so much. Imagine, he actually yelled at his wife in front of everyone and called her a 'slut.' I had to take him outside and ask him to calm down and just let his wife enjoy herself."
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