You want to experiment sexually? Besides swinger clubs and the like, sex parties are a tingling alternative to explore your needs. For you to feel safe even as a newcomer on the erotic playground, we have summarized the best tips for a successful experience at your first sex party!
You can find an overview of current erotic and sex parties at JOYclub in our erotic event calendar.
What kind of sex parties are there?
Sex parties happening at weekends only? Those days are over! After all, your desire does not depend on the time of day either. Especially for open-minded singles, this tingling pastime is a wonderful opportunity to fulfill your own sexual needs. For you to find an erotic party that suits your expectations, here is a brief overview of the different variants:
- Private sex parties or swingers parties: Privately organized and for invited guests only. Read below how you can get in.
- Sex positive parties: From private parties to entire sex positive festivals, there are a lot of options! The important thing is that people of all genders and sexual orientations can feel comfortable there. You may get frivolous at these parties, but you don’t have to.
- Public events and sex parties: Mostly in relevant establishments and open to the public. Often with a motto or dress code.
- BDSM and fetish parties: Here, too, there is everything from private party events with a specific dress code, to large events in the scene. Bondage or shibari parties are very popular.
How do I find the right sex party experience for me?
Basically, there is every kind of sex party you could even imagine in your wildest dreams. Get clear on what you want out of a visit: uncomplicated hookups? A wild sex party that lasts all night? Or do you just want to get a taste of an unknown world?
No matter what kind of sex party it is: Respect and consensuality are absolute prerequisites for your participation. An erotic party is no guarantee for sex! In any case, you should pay attention to your appearance, appear well-groomed and adhere to any dress code. If you come as a single man, an entrance fee is usually due, while single women mostly get in for free.
You have a certain fetish or kink? Then keep your eyes open for relevant events like BDSM parties.
Private swingers parties - how do I get an invitation?
For many singles and couples it is important to regularly have a bit of frivolous fun with acquaintances or strangers. Sex parties often take place in swingers clubs, appropriate discos, but also on private premises. However, you won't be able to find the time and place on the Internet. The more exclusive or private the sex party, the more difficult it is to get on the guest list. But even if you’re new to the scene, you can get your spot with the following tips.
3 tips on how you can make it to a private erotic party as a newbie:
- Be a welcome guest in swingers clubs or visit relevant regulars' tables. If you leave a sympathetic and respectful impression there, you will certainly soon be invited to private meetings.
- Exchange yourself here in the sex positive JOYclub community! We offer you a forum for every sexual preference. You are sure to find like-minded people in your area with whom you can get to know new aspects of your desire.
- Become active! You can dare to play the role of the host yourself and give open-minded people a good time. But remember: with great party ambitions comes great responsibility. Read below to find out what you need to keep in mind as a host.
The sex party etiquette - what is allowed and what not?
Your first sex party experience is coming up. Who will be there and what will happen? Your imagination is running at full speed for days beforehand. The anticipation is strong, maybe even a bit of stage fright. Don't let it unsettle you. Stick to our little sex party etiquette, then your knees will soon be shaking - but not from nervousness!
Tips for a fulfilling sex party
- Keep your expectations in check: Even if a sex party is all about the most beautiful secondary matter in the world, there’s no guarantee to actually have sex. For newbies, this can take the pressure off. Feel into the vibe, stay open to the new experience, and at best, have a lot of fun!
- Remain respectful: Allowed is what pleases you. This applies to all visitors. Watching is usually allowed, participation must be requested. Therefore, especially at wild sex parties: Ask for consent. Accept a no and respect closed doors.
- Dress appropriately: Showing skin is normal and even desired at a swinger party. Lingerie and underwear may look all the more erotic and stylish.
- Fresh all round: A well-groomed appearance and an especially well-groomed intimate area are a must!
- Celebrate the rainbow: Homophobia and sexism are two things that will end your first erotic party in a flash. You might run into a man in high heels or a woman with a strap-on - so what? Keep an open mind and be respectful. After all, you want the same for yourself. Accordingly, the following also applies: Show yourself as you are.
- Clean up after yourself: In the heat of the moment, the few clothes quickly scatter in all directions. Remember that you are not in your own home. Leave the place the way you found it.
Organize your own private sex party
Hosting a sex party brings you many advantages. You decide who can come. Do you stay within your circle of friends or do you open your chambers to people you don't know? Important when choosing guests: listen to your gut feeling. Inviting complete strangers can be a special thrill - but also involves a certain risk.
This is how you get the party going: Anything that lightens the mood and makes you want more is permitted. Provided that consent remains intact. As the host, you can also specify a certain dress code. Do you prefer varnish and leather or silk and lace? Another option could be playing cards with erotic tasks.
Have snacks ready that can be eaten in an erotic way - strawberries with whipped cream are a classic. If you want your guests to really let loose, provide plenty of towels and tissues. Professionals like to use washable sheets made of latex.
How to avoid unpleasant surprises at your sex party!
Of course, you should clean thoroughly before the start of the sex party. Provide an appealing playground with blankets, pillows and atmospheric light. Professional tip: Use LED candles to avoid accidents.
The topics of contraception and safe sex should not fall under the table either. It is not taboo to ask your guests to get tested in advance. Sufficient condoms and dental dams are important accessories for any sex party, no matter how wild.
You don't want to celebrate your erotic party at home? Alternatively, a hotel suite or an apartment is an option. The advantage: You don't have to worry about the cleaning, but can fully concentrate on your role as the host. For your BDSM party, a studio or dungeon offers the right ambience.
Clarify the topics of cell phones, photos and videos in advance. Same with hard liquor. Establish a safe word together with your guests. If this is pronounced, the sex party pauses immediately and only when everyone feels comfortable and safe again, it can continue. Because despite all the lust, one thing is always in the foreground of a successful sex party: consent.
You can find guests for your sex party in JOYclub!
Live your lust and show yourself as you are! In JOYclub we offer you a safe space for your needs, preferences and fetishes. Our sex positive community is happy to welcome new members and lives from the exchange between sexperts and amateurs. You want to participate in your first private sex party or organize one yourself? Then dive into the community and exchange ideas in the forums and groups!
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