Talk Dirty To Me!

"You slut!", "Fuck me!", "Do me right!" Too vulgar? Maybe at first glance. In reality, however, many people want to hear these dirty words during sex, get each other hot and really let loose verbally. We'll show you in three steps how you can practise dirty talk and really get your partner going!

Step 1: Practice makes perfect

The aim of dirty talk is to sexually arouse your partner with dirty and direct words - before or during sex. The voice, the tone of voice and, of course, the choice of words play a decisive role.

Most couples find it difficult to put dirty talk into practice. Many are afraid of being laughed at or making a fool of themselves. But with mutual understanding, trust, patience and a little practice, anyone can become a real dirty talker. Try reading erotic stories to each other first. Or listen to an erotic audio book together. You'll quickly find inspiration for your own dirty talk!

Step 2: Add variety to your dirty talk

"Fuck me / Give it to me!" is at the top of the list for many couples. But you shouldn't leave it at that: Variety is the magic word when it comes to dirty talk!

Three things you can try out during dirty talk:

Prompts:

• "I want you to fuck me hard!"
• "You're going to suck my cock and swallow it all when I come in your mouth!"

Whisper dirty things in their ear!

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Confessions:

• "I've been thinking about you all day. My cock has been so hard!"
• "I've been very naughty today and deserve to be punished!"
• "Your cock feels so damn good inside me!"

Fantasies:

• "Imagine we're in our favourite bar and I'm secretly slipping my hand up your skirt."
• "I want you to watch me do it to myself!"
• "I'm your sex slave - tell me what you want to do to me!"

The more direct, the better - simply describe to your partner what you're about to do to them. Perhaps you could even incorporate the whole thing into a little role play? There are no limits to your imagination.

Please note: not everyone likes terms like "monster tits" or "steel spanking". So it's better to tell your partner beforehand what turns you off during dirty talk! And maybe by sharing your fantasies with each other, you'll pave the way for new ones - dirty talk doesn't always have to be friendly.

Step 3: Don't limit dirty talk to the bed

Dirty talk doesn't just have to be limited to when you're both there. With phone sex, you can also live out your hot fantasies when you're not together! Just ask your partner what they're wearing or what they're doing with their hands during your usual evening phone call and the conversation will take its course. Or you can delay the whole thing a little by sending each other hot voice messages.

Not into phone calls? Try sexting!
Sometimes the situation or spontaneity doesn't allow for a phone call: just send your partner a suggestive text message or a hot picture of you.

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By the way: Many people find it easier to write about their fantasies than to talk about them. This way you can warm up for the real dirty talk!