Sexuality knows no age, but your body does? Paulina from Temples of Eros has put together a collection of sex positions that will spice up your sex life without making your knees - and other parts of your body - ache. Enjoy!
By PriestessPow
Paulina Tenner is a married, polyamorous and omnisexual tantric sexpert from JOYclub.com. She’s available for sacred kink and sexual healing sessions and can be found through her JOYclub profile.
You're never too old to have a fulfilled sex life!
First things first, being of a certain age does not limit your sexual repertoire at all. In fact, based on my personal experience and the experiences of those in my sex-positive community at JOYclub, what you enjoy sexually only expands as you gain more life experience (not just in the bedroom, but outside of it too!). Earth shattering sex is down to how open your mind/consciousness is and not much else - trust me on this one!
So, don’t let anyone tell you there are positions you shouldn’t explore as an older person. I’ve personally known people in their seventies with way more energy, stamina, flexibility, and appetite for adventure than I had in my twenties. It is your prerogative, always, to discover what feels comfortable and pleasurable for you. Just follow the deliciousness of your sexual flow and let it take you where it wants to.
Having said that, you may find that some positions are better suited to you if you experience physical discomfort (for example in your back or knees). To help you discover even deeper levels of satisfaction, I’m sharing my expertise and top recommendations.
The key is to experiment and tune into what feels good - or better than good, that’s the whole point of sex! Through bliss we connect with ourselves, each other, and everything that exists. We heal ourselves, and each other, as we transcend the limits of what our rational mind can achieve.
These positions can easily be explored by hetero, LGBTQ+, and gender fluid couples (in the case of two female-bodied beings, one partner will penetrate with a strap-on, dildo, or double dildo for mutual penetration).
Always remember that your favourite position might not be the same as your partner’s. You may find it difficult to find a position that gives both of you equal pleasure and stimulation; that’s fine, you don’t need to panic! Just keep experimenting. Perhaps you can switch from one position to another during sex so you both get a chance to enjoy maximum pleasure.
Also - try toys! That bit of extra vibration on the clit or g-spot, or a cock ring to help maintain an erection in trickier positions, could transform your shared experience.
1. Miraculous Missionary
Missionary is often seen as "vanilla", however it is still one of my top three favourite positions because of the connection it facilitates. I absolutely adore how intimate I feel with my partner in missionary, especially when it’s one of my first sexual encounters with them.
Conveniently, there are several ways you can practise missionary that are a little easier on your body, giving both parties extra stability. If it feels more comfortable, one partner can lay on their back, whilst their partner stands at the end of the bed and penetrates them vertically. This can be enjoyed with your legs hanging off the end of the bed, or resting upwards on your partner’s chest (this can help you achieve a deeper climax). Similarly, for added stability feel free to wrap your arms and legs around one another as much as you like during missionary! This will provide comfort, stability, and closeness; win-win.
2. Saucy Spooning
Spooning is so underrated! This is honestly one of the most healing positions that I know, because of its comfort and cosiness. Plus, you can give your lover extra genital stimulation with your fingers or a toy during penetration, whilst your other hand travels to one of their erogenous zones such as the nape of their neck.
3. 69 Me to the Moon!
The 69 position is one of the most delicious things we can do during sex because it allows for mutual genital worship.
If giving and receiving at the same time leaves you feeling like your brain/senses might just explode (which is how I sometimes feel!), pause the stimulation of your partner and just receive, simply gazing lovingly at their genitals (which is a form of worship too). You can then swap and both feel intsense pleasure at your own pace.
Looking for a challenge?
If you've tried all of these sex positions and find yourself longing for more inspiration, look no further! With these 99 positions straight from Kamasutra, you will have a lot of new options:
- Kamasutra – 33 positions for beginners
- Kamasutra - 33 positions for professionals
- Kamasutra – 33 positions for advanced learners
4. Danger-Free Doggy
There are multiple variations of doggy that you can enjoy whether or not your back causes you discomfort or one of you is in a wheelchair, worry not!
As seen, one partner can sit on top of the other whilst leaning on a bed in front of them for comfort. Or, one partner can bend over and rest their forearms on a table whilst their partner takes them from behind, if standing is more comfortable. Almost all positions can be enjoyed by anyone - no matter their age or physicality - you just need to adapt and keep an open mind!
5. Cosmic Chair Action
Yes, your really can be shot into the stratosphere from the comfort of your own chair or wheelchair! Gaze deeply into each other’s eyes, particularly as one/both of you climax; as you thrust up and down you will both feel intense, deep levels of pleasure.
This position can start with an exciting striptease and lap dance from one partner, turning cosmic chair action into a broader fantasy or role playing scene. There are no limits when it comes to great sex, just do whatever feels right and arousing for you.
6. Carefree Cowgirl
There’s sometimes nothing more satisfying for the person being penetrated than being in complete control of the experience in terms of speed, depth, and the angle of thrusts.
To practise this position in a way which supports the back of the receiver, give yourself extra stability by resting your hands on the legs of your partner as they lie underneath you. The Carefree Cowgirl is particularly pleasurable if the receiver has an active Kundalini (a divine feminine energy at the base of the spine) as this position directs sexual energy upwards through the spine very easily.
7. Sizzling Scissoring
I absolutely love this position because it’s so hot! Plus, you can easily eye gaze and place your hands on each other’s hearts; this stimulates a deeper sense of connection whilst allowing you to both be completely comfortable, using pillows for support if you need to.
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