Rimming, also known as anilingus, involves stimulating and penetrating the anus with the tongue. Interested? Here you'll learn all about this type of play - we'll show you step by step how to make oral anal sex sensual. 10 tips for a successful rimjob!
Preparation ⬝ Step by step ⬝ The best rimjob positions ⬝ The right tongue insert
Rimming - what does that mean?
Rimming is the stimulation of the anus with the mouth. This sex practice can also be called rimjob or anilingus can also be referred to as rimjob or anilingus. Anilingus is made up of the Latin words 'anus' and 'lingere' - anus and lick. This practice involves pampering and licking the anus of your sexual partner.
"Rim" can be understood in the sense of edge, which does not mean that your tongue is only allowed to move around the edge of the anus during a rim job. Either the tongue itself is allowed to penetrate or the anal play is extended by a finger (or more).
What is the appeal of the rim job?
The anus and perineal region are erogenous zones with numerous nerve endings. Stimulating this region with your fingers or tongue can lead to intense sensations. Even the supposed breach of taboo of bringing your mouth close to the anus is an additional attraction for many. Depending on your preference and with a little preparation, anal tongue play is a pretty clean affair!
Rimming and BDSM
Rimming is also a popular BDSM practice. In role plays that involve a power imbalance, the dominant partner can use the rimming as a punishment. In this case, thorough cleaning of the anal area is often dispensed with in order to give the game an extra kick. The submissive partner draws excitement from licking the dom clean. But even away from role play and without power dynamics, a rimjob can provide intense pleasure and intimacy.
How to prepare for the rim job
Rimming is usually part of the foreplay. However, the rimjob can also be the centerpiece and is just as suitable for initiating facesitting, a prostate massage, anal sex or pegging. Before you start with the anal fun, there are a few points to consider. Here we explain the essential steps to prepare for this special pleasure.
☆ Step 1: Clean the back room thoroughly
First of all, it's time to get out of bed and into the bathroom. Clean not only the anus thoroughly, but the entire crease. Since you're in the shower anyway, clean the inside of your bottom with your finger. Insertion up to the first knuckle is enough. It's wise to empty your bowels before showering. Alternatively, there are also special shower attachments and anal showers to prepare you particularly well for anal fun. Unsure? Talk to your partner about it.
☆ Step 2: Hairy or smooth?
If you like a hairless genital area, it's wise to also include the butt crease into your beauty routine beforehand. People with strong hair growth can increase their own sensitivity by shaving and facilitating the access for the active part. However, it is not necessarily true that a hairy target area is unhygienic from the outset when rimming.
☆ Step 3: Have a lick cloth ready
These wafer-thin cloths, also called dental dams, are mostly made of latex. When placed on the anus, they protect against infections, intestinal parasites, bacteria and viruses. They also help to take the shyness out of the first rimjob. If necessary, a condom without lubricant will also do.
Rimming: This is how to approach it
Are you clean, trimmed and ready to be stimulated? A good start is a general pampering of the intimate area with a blowjob or licking of the vulva. This warms you up and gets you in the right mood. This can be followed by the first rimming attempts. The shower is a perfect place to do this. If you prefer a dry environment, you could continue as follows:
☆ Step 4: The best positions for anilingus
The range of suitable rimming positions is wide. The main thing is that your bottom is the main protagonist and you're both comfortable enough to enjoy it. Try these positions, for example:
- Doggy-Style
- Bent over a couch
- Facing the wall, butt stretched out, legs wide apart
- 69 and other oral sex positions
Missionary is also a good one: The person to be rimmed lies on their back with a pillow under their back and their legs up. This way, the anus is freely accessible. You can regulate accessibility by spreading or stretching the legs further.
☆ Step 5: Don't rush into the direction of the anus
Slowly make contact with this new zone. Stroke and massage, kiss and gently nibble the bum and/or inner thighs. If you have your partner's back in front of you, focus on the tailbone. From there on, lick down to the crease towards the anus.
☆ Step 6: Use your breath
Numerous nerve endings around the anus ensure that the slightest stimulation is perceived intensely during a rim job. A light, warm breath or inhalation is enough for a pleasant thrill.
☆ Step 7: Use your lips skillfully
Pleasure the perineum, gently pinch the inside of the thighs with your lips, make contact with the anus with your lips and gently suck on it. To both partners applies: you know best what feels right. Give each other feedback!
Rimming: The appearance of the tongue
Have you warmed up and explored the target area sufficiently? Then the wonder weapon called tongue is now ready to make an appearance.
☆ Step 8: Let your tongue dance
Place your tongue over the anus and vary the pressure. Move along the perineum and rump. Tense the tongue and circle the anus or draw the rays of the rosette outwards.
Does your partner think what you're doing is just right? Then get even braver and penetrate the outer and inner sphincter muscles with the tip of your tongue. This way you can finally penetrate the anus. This may be unusual for some at first, but it's worth it! If the passive partner has a free hand, they can also touch themselves or you.
☆ Step 9: Use toys
If wanted, you can pleasure your partner with a sex toy - for example anal plugs or dildos - or take turns with them. Because tongue play, which most people will know from oral sex, can be quite tiring. For women, vaginal play with the toy is a good option. Many men enjoy having their testicles gently massaged at the same time.
Please note: Never insert anything into the vagina that has just been in the anus. No fingers, no tongue, no toy - and no penis either.
☆ Step 10: Incorporate food into your rim job
Some creamy substances are wonderful for advanced anilingus. Just the thing for fans of sweets: put a bit of cream in your butt crack and lick it up very slowly. However, be careful not to use any acidic or spicy foods, unless it is an SM game. Women should also be careful: The sensitive genital flora can be sensitive to sugary foods.
After completing the oral act, it can't hurt to rinse your mouth. Ideally with antibacterial mouthwash. Before you follow up the rimjob with more vaginal sex games, take a shower.
Still not convinced? Just think of anilingus as a tongue-lashing that is understood all over the world.
If you're still not entirely sure how it all works, maybe our explicit video tutorial with Divine Theratrix can help. Make sure to check it out and put all of that knowledge to use with the most educated approach possible!
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