As the temperatures rise and nature is in full bloom, don't you just kind of get the urge to remove one or several or all items of clothing from your body? It's outdoor sex season, and we have the guide for you.
By Venus Libido
Venus Libido is a qualified Sex Educator, Sex and relationships coach and training Clinical Sexologist and relationships therapist. For the last three years, Venus has been working in the field of sex education, sex toys and pleasure, endometriosis awareness and helping others when it comes to sexual wellness, intimacy, dating and relationship.
What is Exhibitionism?
Exhibitionism is often thought of as flashing or sending unsolicited intimate pictures. However, exhibitionism is a broad term that also refers to those who enjoy having sex or being naked outside, not necessarily wanting to get caught but liking the risk.
There is nothing wrong with exploring some exhibitionism, but it's essential to understand when it becomes unethical and how to engage in it responsibly and consensually. If you were exhibiting yourself in a place where people haven't consented, for example, in front of families, children, or the general public, then you will be risking the well-being of others and committing a criminal offence.
UK law states:
The Sexual Offences Act 2003 changed previous laws in England and Wales governing sexual behaviour. Sexual activity in public toilets is still an offence, but sex in other public places isn't unless it's witnessed or there's a reasonable chance at least two members of the public might see what's happening.
On a second note, it's also essential to consider the other outcomes that might come with exploring exhibitionism. A member of the public may film your outdoor display, which could potentially lead to it ending up online.
How do I practice exhibitionism responsibly?
If you want to explore exhibitionism responsibly, a good place to start is a sex party. This is a great way to engage in public nudity or sexual activity with a willing audience.
There are also several discreet sex toys that you can use in public with your partner without anyone knowing. This allows you to explore pleasurable and naughty experiences without causing distress to others. That is unless you take on your own Meg Ryan performance.
Engaging in Facetime sex with another consenting adult from the comfort of your home can have the same thrill as outdoor sex. It allows you to go all the way without being restricted or worrying about someone walking in. I highly recommend JOYclub for this one!
Walk to your local forest and explore outdoor sex in a bush where no one can see you. Be mindful of other walkers and consider taking things to cover yourself or wear clothing that helps keep you covered for any unexpected dog walkers.
Visiting a nudist beach while you're away on holiday is also a great place to explore some welcomed nudity. (I tried this myself and loved it!) However, having sex or engaging in any sexual activity would have to wait till you get home.
Finally, you could invite a consenting third person to watch you have sex and/or masturbate at home or during a cheeky hotel stay.
Best practices for enjoying outdoor sex safely
☆ Prepare for your outdoor adventure
Now you have a few options of where to explore your exhibitionist side, it's time to consider the
right time for your outdoor adventure. For those looking to have fun and not run into any issues
with the law. Consider nighttime play, as this will reduce the risk of being seen.
This may sound mundane and boring, but check the weather before heading out. Unless getting
down and dirty in the rain is your thing, think about what you may need to take. This could
include umbrellas, towels, a change of clothes and even sunscreen. No one wants a burnt ass!
Finally, before you get naked, check the exits and the potential dangers of being seen. Make sure
you have an action plan and prepare for the unexpected.
☆ Essential items
Here's a list of some essential (and some optional) items to bring along to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience:
- Blanket
- Towels
- Lube
- Toys
- Wipes
- Torch (if nighttime exploring)
- Maybe even a pop-up tent
The bottom line
The desire to incorporate being watched by others into sexual activity is an extremely common fantasy and nothing to be ashamed of. However, before diving in, I recommend having conversations about what you want when exploring exhibitionism, especially with any sexual partners you might be engaging with.
Trust is a massive part of exploring exhibitionism, so it's best shared with someone who has similar interests and is ready to plan ahead with you.
What are your favourite places for outdoor sex and exhibitionism in general? Have you ever been caught? Feel free to share in the forum!
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