Many paths lead to the female orgasm. Oral sex is one of them. You're into diving between her thighs during cunnilingus? Luckily, just as many women love to really let loose during oral sex. We'll tell you what's important when it comes to hot tongue play.
What is cunnilingus?
Cunnilingus is made up of the Latin words "cunnus" for "female shame" and "lingua" for "tongue". In other words, cunnilingus is oral sex performed on people with vulvas. The term includes any variations where mouth, lips and tongue meet vagina and clitoris. Cunnilingus may be performed in a standing, sitting or lying position. It is one of the most popular sex practices, and not for nothing.
Integrated into foreplay, the cunnilingus technique is a wonderful opportunity to get your partner really hot and heavy. On the other hand, many people get turned on themselves while experiencing the taste and smell of the vulva with all of their senses. That's why cunnilingus and fellatio are two of the most intimate presents you can make your partner.
She doesn't want cunnilingus?
If your partner is not open to cunnilingus, you should not force her in any way, but you can talk to her about it and see if there's specific reasons for it. Some women are worried about what their partner might think about how their vulva looks, tastes or smells. Tell her how much the view turns you on, how erotic you find the smell and how you get off on her taste. Show her that you really like to perceive her with all of your senses. And if her answer remains a "no", there are plenty of other types of play that will be fun for the both of you.
Certain foods, e.g. pineapples and mangos, not only have a positive effect on the taste of semen, but the same is true for vulva smell and taste. Both can actually be "regulated" a bit by consuming or not consuming certain foods. In addition, those factors are also cycle-dependent. A vulva smells and tastes different in the different phases of the cycle, that is totally natural.
5 tips for hot tongue play
Cunnilingus is much more than mechanically working the clitoris with the tongue. For a pleasing experience, the entire intimate area should be involved: Clitoris, the inner sides of the thighs, inner and outer labia and the vagina entrance. The more sensitively you use your mouth, the more pleasure she will feel.
Many women also have a very specific idea of how they want to be eaten out. Let your partner tell you what they like. But also pay attention to body language during cunnilingus sex, such as whether she pushes her pelvis more firmly towards you. Want to improve your cunnilingus technique? We'll give you the best tips!
1. Cunnilingus for beginners
In this cunnilingus technique, she lies on her back and keeps her legs closed. You only reach the venus mound and the base of the clitoris with your tongue. This variant has the advantage that she can slowly get used to the feeling of your tongue on her vulva. When your partner is ready, she will open her thighs further on her own.
2. Avoid neck tension during cunnilingus
Extensive oral sex could be so nice - if it weren't for a tense neck limiting your endurance. To make sure this doesn't happen to you next time, turn things around. That means: she's lying on her back as you're lying on top of her diagonally. Your head points towards her feet. In this position you can relieve your neck during cunnilingus and at the same time spoil her with gentle tongue movements from top to bottom.The intense body contact is a plus.
3. Upright cunnilingus
This cunnilingus technique is suitable for a quickie or as an introduction to extended lovemaking. She stands upright and spreads her legs slightly. You kneel under her. A combination of tongue and finger play can lead to intense orgasms in this position.
4. From tender to hard
A simple variation to improve your cunnilingus technique: play with intensities. At the beginning, your touch should be delicate and slow, like the flap of a butterfly wing. This way you'll stimulate blood flow and the clitoris will start to swell. Now you can slowly increase. Observe her reaction. Vary the speed in between and she will beg for you to keep on going.
5. Let her take control
Another way of performing cunnilingus is facesitting. For this, she squats over your mouth with her legs spread open. You can either actively participate or you let her take the lead. The second option is especially exciting as there's a dominant component to it. If power, submission and dominance play a role, facesitting can also be a part of BDSM.
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Is cunnilingus safe?
You don't necessarily have to use contraception during cunnilingus. However, diseases can also be transmitted during this sex practice. Even minor injuries in the mouth area can be enough to infect yourself with chlamydia, HIV and other unpleasant medical conditions during cunnilingus.
If you do not know your partner well, a dental dam is an indispensable accessory. A dental dam is a thin latex cloth that is simply placed over the vulva. This way, you can reduce the risk of infection and still fully indulge in cunnilingus. If symptoms such as redness or itching of the genitals occur, you should refrain from any type of sex.
Conclusion: Pleasurable cunnilingus requires empathy
With a little practice and the right technique, cunnilingus becomes a sensual pleasure for all involved. As with any other sex practice, communication is key for an enjoyable experience. In any case, you should only indulge in your lust with mutual consent.
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