Alongside the missionary position and doggy style, the cowgirl position is one of the most popular sex positions. Here, the active part is on top and controls the speed, intensity and depth of penetration with their movements. We'll show you how the riding position works and reveal tips for even more pleasure in this sex position!
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Please sit up: The passive partner lies on his back and the active partner sits on him. In the heterosexual version, the woman is usually on top. As the woman's position here is reminiscent of a rider on a horse, the position is also known as the cowgirl position.
If you sit on top in this position, you decide how deep the penis or strap-on penetrates your vagina. You can also control the angle of penetration and the amount of friction on your clitoris. If you don't support yourself on your partner at all or only support yourself with one hand, you can also touch yourself. This makes the riding position particularly popular with women who like to take the lead in bed!
One of the most frequently asked questions about sex in this position is: Do I move up and down or back and forth? There is no right or wrong here! Both movements can be enjoyed by you and your partner. Listen to your needs and communicate them openly.
Of course, the cowgirl position can also be practised by same-sex or non-binary couples. The classic cowgirl position involves vaginal penetration. However, it is also possible to practise the anal riding position and insert the penis or strap-on into the anus. Important: Do not forget to use lube here!
5 tips for more variety in the riding position
As with every sex position, there are many variations of the cowgirl position that you can try out together. With these 5 variations you can have lots of fun in bed!
1st: cowgirl in a sitting position
There is a particularly high level of emotional closeness in the Kamasutra variant "Amazon" possible. This position is also ideal for couples with a significant size difference.
The man (the passive part) sits on a chair, armchair or the edge of the bed. The woman (the active part) sits astride his lap. You can look deep into your partner's eyes. Tender kisses or intimate hugs are also possible.
2nd: Cowgirl in squatting position
In this variation, the woman (or the active part) does not sit on her knees, but adopts a squatting position. Ideally, you should shift your weight onto your heels. Your partner can hold your hands to stabilize you. Your tightened legs will make the vagina tighter and the stimulation will feel more intense. If your partner has their hands free, the position can be combined with a clitoris massage.
3rd: Reverse cowgirl
This Kamasutra sex position is known under the name "thigh striker". The active partner sits turned around on their partner's lap, i.e. with their back to their partner's face. Here, a particularly deep penetration is possible and the penis or strap-on can penetrate the sensitive tissue inside the vagina - also known as the G-spot - well. If the active partner has a prostate in this position, the p-point is stimulated in this position.
The passive partner can enjoy the view of the back and bottom and pamper the active partner's clitoris or penis with their hands.
4th: Monkey position
With this variant of the cowgirl position, a little balance is required. However, the effort is worth it, as the penis can penetrate very deeply and provide particularly pleasurable moments.
The woman (the active part) adopts the reverse position and turns her back to the man (the passive part). He pulls his legs up so far that he can press his feet against your back. You squat down in front of him and lean your back against his feet. For better balance, you and your partner can try this position on the floor first. This position is also suitable for anal sex and is popular with homosexual couples.
5th: One is on top
The man (or passive partner) holds his upper body upright and stretches out his legs. The female partner (or the active part) assumes the reverse position and turns her back to him. Now she bends forward so far that she can lie with her upper body between his legs. Her stomach can lie completely relaxed on the bed. She pushes herself back and forth with her knees and can feel the friction on the clitoris. In addition, the partner(s) can support her movements and control her hips.
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With the cowgirl position the woman or the active partner has the opportunity to let off steam without restraint. Intense closeness and control over the pace are combined in this sex position and give both partners intense pleasure. The many possibilities for variation also make this position a pleasure time and time again. There are no limits to your fantasies here.
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