From 18 centimeters in length and 5 centimeters in diameter, a penis is considered a "big dick". And it's not just in porn that it enjoys great popularity. What's the truth behind the myth of "the bigger the better"? What fascinates women about a big dick? And: How does it feel to be the bearer of a big dick? We spoke to JOYclub members Lynette (loves big dicks) and Jeremie (has a big dick).
Is a big cock better than a small one?
JOYclub member Jeremie agreed to answer some questions for us on the topic of men with big dicks. Here you can find out what kind of attention a big dick can draw to it and if it happens that a well-hung man is reduced to his dick.
At what point do you consider a dick to be "big"?
Jeremie: Of course, that's partly in the eye of the beholder. I think you could call a dick well-grown from eighteen centimetres.
May we ask about your measurements? Do you have a meat penis or a blood penis?
Jeremie: I definitely have a meat penis. When I'm not in cold water, terribly stressed or hungover, it's fourteen centimetres when relaxed and around twenty when erect, with a diameter of six centimetres. It's kind of strange to be broadcasting the data here.
Is your penis natural or have you helped out a little? There's a lot to discover on the internet about penis enlargements and penis pumps.
Jeremie: Every centimetre is as nature gave it to me. I have always been completely satisfied with my large penis and have never even remotely thought about changing anything. An operation seems like too much risk and the other options available do not seem very promising to me.
The dream of a big cock
Is a big cock better than a small one? What are the advantages?
Jeremie: Hmmmh that's a tough question. In any case, a certain size and especially girth during lovemaking is an advantage for the man's sensation. The resistance during penetration, the firm embrace of the vagina or anus. Or when the glans is additionally massaged by the cervix during deep penetration, these things give the large penis in my opinion significantly more pleasure than the small.
Many men dream of having a bigger cock. Can you "reassure" them from your experience, because maybe all that glitters is not gold after all? In other words: What disadvantages can a large penis have?
Jeremie: Sorry, I really can’t speak of disadvantages in my case. Well, except that you might use a little more soap than others (laughs). No, seriously, it may be easy to say, but you just have to be content with what you have. Even a big dick isn't any help if you're not dedicated to a woman's needs and serving her willingly. There is far more to fulfilling lovemaking than a big penis. And honestly, what's worse than it not working at all for reasons like too much stress or inferiority complexes?
Women and their reactions to big dicks
What do you think the majority of women prefer? The big dick, the normal dick or the small dick?
Jeremie: From countless conversations with the female gender, it seems that thickness matters more than length. But I think, even on this subject, there's a nut for every bolt.
What kind of reactions have you received to your dick? Can you tell us an exciting/funny story? Maybe penis envy in the locker room or the woman fainting when she caught sight of your penis.
Jeremie: (Laughs) No, none have fainted yet. But it is true that, in places where you are naked, you do get some attention and every now and then, funny situations arise from this. For example, you can catch women in the sauna staring dreamily between your legs and then reacting in an incredibly bashful and unintentionally funny way when you catch them. So making contact can definitely be easier.
Or a Chinese masseuse who, after a classic treatment, starts cackling and gesticulating with her colleagues like schoolgirls, putting their heads together and grinning perkily at you as you leave the massage room. Or men who just have to risk a look in toilets because you are standing one step further away from the urinal than they are.
For example, I once got rid of my bathrobe in a hotel sauna to go into the steam room. An attractive mature lady, who was resting on the lounger next to me, looked quite unabashedly and very interestedly at my member. Well, not necessarily unusual at first. Seconds later, I'm sitting in the steam room when the door opens and the naked lady joins me. She starts a normal conversation, which she then steers damn fast in a very specific direction. Everything else is left to your imagination (grins). It's true: Something interesting usually happens!
Have there been women for whom you were too big? And if so, how was their reaction then? What do you do (or would you do) to take away any doubts a woman could have in such a situation?
Jeremie: No, I have never been in this situation. They could rather hardly wait to start. But if it happened, I would give the following tips: Just hand over the wheel to the woman and slowly increase. She can then take the time she needs and approach it carefully. Since I always ensure extensive preparation, there have never been any problems. Another idea would be to vary the sex positions. After all, penetration is different in intensity in different sex positions.
Were there possibly already women who did not want to have sex with you at all because of your penis size?
Jeremie: A very clear no (grins).
Do you sometimes feel that you are reduced by women to your dick? So they only want your "big dick", but not the guy who is "attached to it"?
Jeremie: No, the guy "attached to it" is by far more interesting than what's attached to the guy. And since I usually meet the women clothed, they don’t exactly know in advance what they can expect down below. Here in JOYclub, where you could already see one or two photos of me, there is of course the possibility that some women are more interested in my cock than in my person. But that attitude is not particularly promising. Not only lust, but also love and solid relationships are quite possible with a large penis!
How does your dick size affect condom purchases? Have there already been difficulties finding suitable sizes?
Jeremie: I personally have no problems there. If it says XL, then it fits. I prefer Durex King Size Comfort XL. If you are not some kind of genital phenomenon, everyone should usually find something suitable.
Thank you for the interview!
JOYclub member Lynette about big dicks: The size makes the difference
The world of JOYclub groups holds many treasures. For example, the group "BigDicks & Chicks". There one dedicates oneself to the obvious topic of big dicks, addressed however not only to the well equipped men of the world, but also to their lovers and admirers. We spoke to the group's leader Lynette about what is so fascinating about big dicks.
Hello Lynette, you are the leader of the group "BigDicks & Chicks". Can you briefly introduce us to the group?
Lynette: We currently have about 8,300 members, about half of the members are actually men, the other 50 % are divided almost exactly between the ladies and the couples. In the group, the main focus is of course topics all around what being well-hung means: There are threads about the purchase of pants, swimwear and the selection of the correct condom.
Of course there are also medical topics being discussed, such as circumcisions or penis enlargements, the amount of sperm that comes out or erection problems. But also topics in the direction of relationship and love are addressed. Last but not least, our picture threads of big dicks are very popular. But our chicks don't fall short either and show themselves in different threads from their most beautiful and/or exciting side - either lightly dressed or in the FSK18 area.
Do you have a preference for well-endowed men yourself? If so, what makes the difference for you?
Lynette: Well yes of course I have a preference there. First of all, I just find a big cock more visually appealing than a normal or rather small sized one. Of course, a big penis is not everything. It also always depends on the build of the man himself, how his cock looks overall, but generally speaking I can get really enthusiastic about a few centimetres more. It’s this feeling of being completely filled that gives me a kick. Of course, I have also had great experiences with men who had a medium-sized penis. When having sex with a small penis, however, rather less.
To me, a big penis just feels better in practical use. Inside me of course, and a fine quarter pound of meat in the hand is also not to be despised during a handjob. I am very haptically oriented there. Merely during oral pleasure I occasionally reach the limits to my capacities with a large penis, but with regard to the aforementioned first two points I find that this is quite acceptable.
At what measurements is a big dick a "big dick"?
Lynette: I don't like to base a "big dick" on a real measurement at all. According to Wikipedia, the average German dick is somewhere around 14 cm. Judging by that, everything over that could already be classified in the department "large penis". From experience, our members feel that anything over 18 cm can be considered as large, visually speaking. But even a very thick cock with 17 cm can already be "big". We are not so fixed. All kinds of big penises are welcome here.
What’s important is that the members like what is shown and that it is recognizably different from the normal size. But the guys are occasionally very inventive with perspectives and such things as light and shadow when photographing (winks).
From 18 cm in length and at least 5 cm in diameter, I am personally already officially impressed. If I am guided only by my personal taste, the penis may always be thicker rather than longer, because the old saying “lang und schmal - Frauenqual” (engl. "long and narrow - women's torment") still holds for me. A man with actual 18 x 6 cm I would probably immediately propose to (grins).
Prey: Men with big dicks
Does the preference for "big dicks" determine your personal dating life, or can a penis also be "not so big" sometimes?
Lynette: As the saying goes: life is not a bowl of cherries. Of course I'm happy when I meet a man, go into physical exchange with him and he is, not only between the ears, but also in the pants well-equipped . Unfortunately, they don’t have "big penis" tattooed on the forehead from the outset and in the end it is always somehow like a huge surprise egg.
When I unpack him for the first time and there is a real wow effect, my inner goddess might do a Flick Flack or two. But if the man is simply likable and inspires or turns me on in some other way, I am happy and satisfied even with a normal penis. And what good is a big cock if the wearer can't use it, if it doesn't really get hard or the man is a complete idiot in my eyes? No one benefits there.
The very best sex of my life I admittedly had with a man who was built rather smaller by my standards. But that is a completely different story. So let's keep in mind: Sex with a well-endowed man is a special pleasure, but it also works in other ways.
If you meet or want to meet a man outside of the JOYclub, how do you actually find out if he fits into your booty pattern?
Lynette: Well, I have to say, that happens relatively rarely now, since the JOYclub offers quite a lot and especially uncomplicated opportunities to get to know someone. But it does happen. However, I myself am still no different when I meet a man outside the JOYclub.
My open attitude around sexual and erotic topics makes it quite easy for me there. A few charming, curiously packaged questions about practices or preferred condom brands usually bring a quick insight and men are generally very easy to excite with such conversational topics.
If a meeting happens, for example, in the sauna, the woman also has the good fortune to be able to look the facts directly in the eye. Only the assessment of whether the specimen is a blood or meat penis could occasionally cloud the result a little, but so far that has actually always worked out quite well.
Can a "big dick" be too big?
Has there ever been a “too big” for you? Have you already experienced / felt that?
Lynette: Yes, that exists, too. One time so far I have thought: oh my God, this does not work. No. Not at all. It won't fit in my vagina and I don't want you to make it fit either. Which is, of course, complete nonsense, because where kids come out from that are around 50 cm tall, 25 cm shouldn't be an obstacle. However, that’s not for me or my vagina.
How does it feel? I can only think of very plastic and not very ladylike comparisons right now. It hurts and makes me want to install a path limiter so that it is not quite so bad when thrusting. Conclusion on this point: Everything has its limit and it starts with me at around 23 cm. However, gentlemen with this equipment are very rare anyway, so I do not think it will happen to me again.
Many thanks for the nice conversation and continue having fun with your group!
Note: This interview took place in May of 2017.
Fact 1: Finding the right condom size is not that easy
Wearers of big dicks often have trouble finding a "wrap" that fits. Whether it's underwear or pants, a big penis needs more wiggle room! And it doesn't stop at clothing. Well-fitting condoms are often only available from online retailers, and even then it's hard to find the perfect condom size. Providers like My.Size are happy to help you find the right condom size if needed.
Fact 2: Big dicks give more sperm
JOYclub members report having extra fun with big-dick-wearers at a sperm play party. Because: big dicks give off a lot of sperm according to their experiences. This makes snowballing, creampie or cumshot an even more intense experience. However: A penis does not need to be big, of course, to be able to give off a lot of sperm.
Fact 3: Big Dick - Women's Luck!
Not (only) the penis’ length is decisive for an intense female orgasm. The female JOYclub members agree: Above all, it depends on the girth! With a diameter of at least five centimeters, a big dick is really something to behold. Like that, it not only perfectly stimulates the vaginal entrance, but also the G-spot, which sits just behind it.
Fact 4: Most Big Dicks are blood penises
JOYclub surveys show: Most big dicks are blood penises. That means, when erect, they can actually increase in length and thickness by quite a bit. This does not always have to be an advantage. If the vagina is penetrated too deeply and unknowingly, it can become painful.
Fact 5: Only a Big Dick can do that - the cervix orgasm
Mindless ramming with a big dick often leads to injuries in the woman's intimate area. However, if the man knows what to do with his penis, the sex is pleasurable and anything but painful. Some ladies in JOYclub even report a so-called cervix orgasm. Cervix is the opening of the uterus to the vagina. And that's exactly where the stimulation by a big cock is supposed to work wonders - of course, only if you use it right.
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