Vaginal fisting: Inserting the whole hand into the woman's vagina requires a lot of practice and sensitivity. Read the experience report of our JOYclub members Mim and Merlin about how a woman’s sexual sensation can be increased by vaginal fisting and what needs to be considered, especially by the active part.
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Register now for freeDon't be shy! Correcting prejudices
First things first: If fears or prejudices are the reason why fisting has not been tried in your partnership so far, here are some corrections:
- No, the vagina does not get worn out if you practice well and take a lot of time. On the contrary: Mim and Merlin have rather experienced that the pelvic floor muscles are trained, making the contractions much strongert during sex or orgasm.
- No, the woman does not become incontinent! Here, too, thorough exercise is crucial, then the same thing will happen as described prior. The woman is trained to process stimuli better.
- No, it is not a brutal, ruthless practice that is only done in the S&M field. It can be very, very intimate and sensual, depending on the couple’s attitude.
Step by step: how vaginal fisting works
The "fingering" of the woman is generally accepted and free from prejudice. Yet this is already a preliminary step, albeit a small one, to fisting. But which woman is already satisfied with one finger? It quickly updates to two or three. And this is where interested parties should start.
Which position is best can hardly be answered across the board. With Mim and Merlin, she lay on her back and relaxed, so that she could move better in the directions that are most comfortable for her. The woman's moving along is extremely important.
Each woman should explore whether certain aids make things easier for her. Often reported and also experienced by Mim, a vibrator on the clitoris helps to bring about an increase in pleasure, which counteracts the feeling of pressure very well.
Step 1: Pre-stretch and explore
First of all, the starting point: what is the maximum number of fingers that are normally used for stimulation and do not cause any unpleasant sensations? If it is three, you should start fisting with four fingers.
Then the crucial question: How is the feeling when inserting fingers for both partners? That is, the active part should explore in which hand position the lady is most "open" and how he can insert his fingers into her as far as possible without causing her pain or discomfort.
At this point, it should be noted that feelings of pressure are completely normal, because it is, after all, a stretching. So, both partners should experiment extensively: It may be more comfortable for them downward or upward. It is also an important question whether she is more sensitive at the perineum or at the upper part of the vaginal entrance. This varies from woman to woman.
If she feels less pressure at the perineum and is more sensitive to pain above, the active part can achieve better pre-stretching by pressing the fingers/hand down. In any case, the active part will notice how she is also further and easier to penetrate with more and more stretching.
Pay attention to the places where she is sensitive. In Mim's case, it's the spot about five centimeters after the entrance at the top. If you, as the active part, have found such a spot, rub it a little harder than the rest of the interior from time to time. If you reach this spot with your knuckles or later on with the root of your thumb, your lady's sensitivity will increase immeasurably. As long as you are not that far yet , however, this can be a distraction from the feeling of pressure and thus useful for relaxation!
For the pre-stretching and trying out you should take a lot of time. And it should also only be trials and preparations in your mind: Don’t put yourself under pressure. Sometimes it happens faster than you think. During the test phase, it is advisable to insert two fingers from each hand every now and then to carefully stretch to both sides.
During the first attempts, Merlin could feel strong contractions in Mim due to the stimulation with the vibrator. Every woman will know this herself. If she contracted, he paused with the penetration, as soon as she opened again, he increased the pressure, which pulled the hand almost independently further in.
Step 2: The penetration of the hand
Now you can add the thumb. It should be placed in the palm of the hand with the hand formed into the already familiar duckbill (see our fisting workshop). Inside, you need to feel for yourself when to begin to fold the fingers, because the depth of the woman is not always enough for a stretched hand, and also does not bring the desired results.
If you have reached the maximum tolerable degree of stretching for her in this phase and the woman interrupts the penetration, stay in this position for as long as she can stand it. Then pull back for now and repeat the light stretching and stroking of the vaginal entrance. You can also switch to cunnilingus for a bit or just caress her, anything that is conducive to distraction and relaxation.
It's up to her to decide when to move on. But you'll notice that it's much easier afterwards, and it puts far less pressure on her to get back to the position she reached before. She also has to determine if she wants to go further or leave it at that point for now and finish the mission another time. The active part, if they are sensitive and pay attention to their partner, feels exactly in which position the full penetration of the hand will be possible.
Step 3: The maximum stretching of the vagina
Once you've done all this a few times, it will become easier to penetrate deeper each time. You will notice at a certain point that the hand will be slightly pulled inwards almost by itself. However, this doesn't mean that the active part can now just give it a good squeeze and be done with it! The stretching is maximum at this point and accordingly intense for the woman. Thus, the partner should now be very careful.
According to Mim and Merlin's experience, it's easiest to point your hand down now and form it into a fist at the same time, so that you don't bump anywhere at the back and thus interrupt the fun prematurely. Even if now comes the moment for the active part, where he would like to give in to the suction because he can no longer wait: Do not give in to that desire immediately!
Some advice from Mim: If the moment just described is reached, stop, move the hand very slightly in and out and work the clitoris with the vibrator until the orgasm is announced. If she notices this, the active part can quite easily sink the hand in completely, because in this situation the intense stretching has a pleasure-increasing effect without end, which makes things much easier.
The orgasm during vaginal fisting
During orgasm, to the active part it feels as if the entire inside of the woman wraps around their hand. It becomes so tight that the hand is pressed very hard, also towards the exit. This should be used immediately during the first attempt to pull out the hand again. This way, no negative feeling remains and you can try again. After it has worked once, it becomes easier and easier.
With time, you can start to move your hand in and out after insertion. Although "out" doesn't really mean out, but just pulling strongly towards the exit and then pushing back in. Slight twisting of the hand is another form of increase.
And if you are lucky enough to stimulate a woman so that her pleasure goes beyond the normal level, she may even squirt. This is not uncommon during fisting and is not to be confused with urination! So don't panic if it gets wetter, that's the best confirmation that the active part did it right!
The feeling of pressure afterwards
As it is the case with anal fisting after the first few times, vaginal fisting is also associated with some after-effects. A slight feeling of pressure remains, Mim describes it like a tampon that’s not in the right position. However, this passes after a day and with growing experience it disappears completely. Nothing is broken or damaged, don’t worry!
- Have fun and good luck!
© Mim_Merlin
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