Fisting is a sex practice in which several fingers, the whole hand or several hands are inserted into the vagina or anus. Now, the idea of getting a body orifice widened by a hand or a gigantic dildo in such a way can seem daunting. But what sounds brute or like an extreme sex practice is associated with enormously intense sensations.
As is so often the case, the taboo nature of this practice obscures the possibility of expanding one's own sex life by a pleasurable experience. Because with the right preparation, fisting is no more extreme than many other sex practices. To properly enjoy fisting, a certain amount of practice, confidence and lube is required. Are you interested in this topic and curious about how fisting works safely? We give answers to the most important questions about fisting!
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For most sexually active people, sexual practices involving the hands are part of their standard repertoire. The step from fingering to fisting is smaller thank you might think. Especially in the queer community, fisting is a popular sex practice, since it is not gender specific. Meaning, no penis is needed to practice it and it works vaginally as well as anally. Some lesbians like that it is a possibility to experience sex without any phallic associations.
The fact remains that sex practices with hands involved consistently enjoy great popularity. So why not expand this field to include fisting?
In the LGTBQ community fisting is a popular sex practice.
Practiced correctly, fisting is an enormously intense and pleasurable experience. For many people, the attraction lies in the feeling of "fullness". After all, a hand stimulates a much larger area than, for example, a single finger. The idea of absorbing as much as possible of the counterpart in itself feels particularly intimate for many as well.
Do you really use whole fist when fisting?
It does lie in the word, yes. Nevertheless: It does not necessarily have to be meant literally. The insertion of several fingers or the stretched hand is also called fisting. In addition, hand movements between stretching and clenching go under this term.
Especially beginners should start with single fingers, the stretched hand or the so-called "duckbill". However, these hand positions are also often perceived as more pleasant by fisting lovers. Here it is simply a matter of sounding out one's personal preferences.
It doesn't always have to be the fist: The so-called "duckbill" is especially appropriate for beginners.
In short: it does not always have to be the whole fist! The most important thing is that the person being penetrated does not feel any pain or discomfort.
What should I consider as a fisting beginner?
Inform yourself: Especially beginners should know a thing or two about different aspects of fisting, such as the different types of fisting, approaches and risks.
Relaxed atmosphere: In order to be able to fist with pleasure, a relaxed feeling is indispensable. A comfortable position of the passive fisting part counteracts cramping. For vaginal fisting, the woman's pelvis could be placed on a pillow.
Communication and trust: As with all sex practices, it is important to talk openly with your partner and express wishes and ideas. Possible limits should also be discussed. Trust plays a big role in this.
Hygiene: Hygiene is also very important when fisting. Especially beginners should think about the use of disposable gloves. These are not mandatory, but can make the initial fisting attempts easier under certain circumstances. Without disposable gloves, the lubricant used may be absorbed very quickly into the fingers and hand, the hand becomes rough and dry and the fisted person is in pain.
Don't be stingy with lubricant: With insufficient lube, fisting will not be a pleasurable experience. This applies regardless of gender and which orifice is to be stretched. A guideline can be: You think it's too much lube? Then it is just enough.
Cut your nails: It goes without saying that having short fingernails is highly advisable for fisting, for comfort and to diminish the risk of injury. So, get the clipper out before you start!
With the right preparation fisting promises deep intimacy.
As the vagina is intended to be the natural birth canal, it is very stretchy. The myth of the vagina wearing out is nothing more than just that - a myth. Nevertheless, it should be done gently so that the woman finds vaginal fisting pleasurable.
The basic prerequisite is a high level of moisture in the intimate area, which occurs when there is enough arousal. A sensitive foreplay must not be missing during fisting.
Then carefully try out how far the vagina can be stretched at this point. For this, the vagina should first be penetrated with only a few fingers, and then, depending on her well-being, the rest of the hand can then be introduced.
In no case should this be done with jerky movements, as the mucous membranes of a vagina are also not able to withstand unlimited strain. Caution and sensitivity are the top premises here.
Since hands not only have a larger volume than a penis, but the skin on the hands is also much rougher and more absorbent, a lubricant should definitely be used to help with vaginal moisture. This facilitates the penetration into the desired body opening immensely. The usually cool lubricant also makes the skin surface appear smoother. Many beginners also like to use disposable gloves.
What are the special features of anal fisting?
With anal fisting, the risk of injury is much higher, since the anus is not nearly as flexible as the vagina. Here you should use plenty of lubricant and proceed carefully.
A significant advantage of anal fisting is that, in contrast to vaginal fisting, it can be performed by both partners to the same extent, i.e. both can fist actively as well as passively. Both partners have the possibility to make their respective boundaries clearer to each other that way.
Rough or violent movements can lead to anal fissure, a tear in the anal mucosa. This can lead to infection, even if sexual intercourse has taken place with a condom. In worse cases, it can even lead to perforation of the bowel or even damage to the sphincter, or pelvic floor muscles, which can result in incontinence.
Therefore: Proceed with caution and care. Muscles are capable of learning, but they cannot be stretched completely from one moment to the next. Comparatively speaking, it is like going to the gym: No one goes in skinny and comes out an hour and a half later muscle-bound.
Fisting requires a lot of practice. As the ability to stretch the anus increases, so does the comfort of the process itself. The muscle is already aware of this, it relaxes, no longer cramps. Thus, the highly erogenous intestinal area can be stimulated, which can eventually lead to orgasm.
Should I empty my bowels before fisting?
Yes, it is advisable to empty the bowel beforehand. Firstly, because during vaginal fisting, pressure may be exerted on the bowel. This has the consequence that the muscles tense up and the relaxation is gone.
On the other hand, bowel emptying is quite useful because a muscle reacts to signals. If the sphincter muscle in the anus is stimulated, this is a sign for it to open up, which can have unsightly results.
What is the best way to prevent pain during fisting?
Pain during fisting results in muscle cramps, which in turn causes the vagina or anus to become "tighter", further increasing the pain.
Therefore, it is especially important to approach slowly and always make sure that it is also comfortable for your counterpart. Caution is also required when pulling out the hand. The same applies here: avoid jerky movements, as otherwise injuries to the mucous membranes, for example from fingernails, can occur.
Both partners should only go as far as their "tolerable" pain threshold allows, never beyond. Regular practice will soon show success in terms of tolerability. Then the volume to be inserted can be increased slowly and in small steps. It is not necessary to use fingers or hands for this purpose; success can also be achieved with dildos or vibrators by slowly increasing the volume.
Anal fisting, like any other sex practice, is not for everyone. Just like anal sex with a penis, dildo or vibrator, hand penetration can be very painful. A fact that can be easily remedied with practice. Nevertheless, for some people anal fisting crosses a shame line, which in these cases should not be violated either.
Does fisting lead to orgasm in any case?
With regard to the sensations during fisting, there are extreme differences. Many women find vaginal fisting tremendously arousing and describe their orgasms as much more intense than with penile penetration.
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Many women describe their orgasms during fisting as extremely intense.
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On the one hand, this can be related to the volume, but on the other hand, it can also be related to the mobility of the individual fingers. Nevertheless, there is of course no orgasm guarantee when fisting. The perceptions are simply too individual to be able to make generally valid statements.
Does fisting wear out the muscles?
Similar to fitness exercises, the muscles get used to the strain through constant training. A slow approach and continuous increase are important. This way, the muscle increases the stretching ability bit by bit and no longer reacts with pain during penetration.
As soon as the fingers or the entire hand are removed from the opening, the muscles retract to their original state. This process is similar to childbirth: here, too, the vagina contracts again and does not remain permanently stretched to such an extent that a newborn baby could fit through it.
Can you have sex again directly after fisting?
Although both the anal and vaginal muscles relax and retract, it is not advisable to have sex in the conventional way immediately after fisting.
After fisting, the stretched muscles must first return to their original state. You should therefore wait before having "normal" sex.
The woman does not have to expect pain, but the vaginal muscles do not recover quite so quickly. So it is quite possible that the woman feels nothing during conventional penetration, because: A hand, or rather a fist, definitely fills the vagina more than a penis.
In addition, the feeling is also completely different. While during sex it is often the friction and the relatively fast movement that is exciting, slow, small movements are often enough to stimulate the partner during fisting.
Although this promises a very violent orgasm, the vagina can not only be overstretched but also overstimulated for a short time. Therefore, there should be at least a good hour between fisting and sexual intercourse.
Fisting: Allowed is what you like
Fisting, no matter what form it takes, is by no means perverted or abnormal.
The important thing is that all participants are having fun. If this condition is met, there is nothing to stop you from exploring this in the right mood and finding out how far you want to go. If you give it enough time for the muscles to get used to it, nothing stands in the way of an exciting, new experience!
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