It’s a good time to be a kinky woman in London! Women and non-binary people are able to safely express their sexuality away from the male gaze thanks to a recent surge of events. Some of them have been building up for many years, like Skirtclub but so many new ones are popping up like mushrooms and a bi-lady like me suddenly finds herself with quite a lot of choice to indulge in sensual female surroundings.
By Anna Kii
Anna Kii is JOYclub's ambassador for the UK. She's a German expat and has been based in London for 10 years, living and breathing all things kink and alternative lifestyle, as well as exploring art, shops and any other cool hang out spots London has to offer.
The offer is broad as well as the nuances. There are Flinta, lesbian, non binary and bisexual, sex worker friendly and queer events and sometimes it is hard to differentiate and find the right niche for oneself, but the only way to find out is to buy a ticket and throw yourself into it going for the full experience!
Female sexuality is an emotional thing and I have experienced lots of different emotions during my own sexual journey of discovery but nowadays I have arrived in a comfortable place where I enjoy women sexually and emotionally on a friendly connective basis without going too much into deep relationships as I do not feel like excluding men. Basically I am having lots of fun with both, and I am loving it!
Luckily JOYclub has exactly the right events listed in their event calendar I wanted to introduce here. All of them provide a very different sort of experience and I am sure you will find the right event for you!
1. Seeking Venus
Enter another realm, where creative alchemy inspires and connects. A velvet voyage, a journey of discovery; travelling through exotic reaches of the mind, body and heart, to find the goddess within…
Seeking Venus is an evening wrapped in sensuality and theatricality, providing a range of experiences designed to provoke, intrigue and develop chemistry between guests. Described by one as an ‘interactive erotic adventure', this elegant event takes place in sumptuous private venues and brings together seekers from different scenes for an exploration of sexuality and soul, kink and connection.
Founded from a desire for an alternative to club nights, with a focus on erotic encounters beyond ‘playroom’ activities, and to create a sensual sanctuary where femininity takes the lead, Seeking Venus has a unique atmosphere. Typically only running annually, here’s some of what’s on offer:
- Exclusive London venue with various enticing zones to explore
- International performers
- Mixologists, bespoke cocktails
- Immersive theatre and installations
- Pop-up designer boutique
- Intimate parlour games hosted by our Venusians
- Erotic storytelling
- Sumptuous play spaces and variety of kink furniture
- Shibari
- Life drawing
- DJ sets
- Photography sessions for those desiring a private, take-home memory
- 'The Ritual'
Here’s what I have to say about my visit:
2. Lady Liquid Love
Liquid Love is a collective journey exploring playfulness and the sensuality of flowing skin to skin contact using warm olive oil....LADY Liquid Love is for women.
The concept is simple: we will pour warm, fine, olive oil on to the skin, from where it will spread out over the body and form a lubricious substance, which allows to float in a sea together with other oily bodies.
Everyone is invited to respect their own rhythm and limits to touch and nudity.
We invite people to move and allow to be moved without intentions or sexual orientation. Releasing our usual desire to take action on erotic sensations and thoughts we invite to be present and to relax into the energetic flow of the bodies around one. This is a place where all of us can love and be loved in an impersonal and unbound manner and above all a place to super charge the soul.
Expect to experience the following emotions:
- Body awareness
- Heightened erotic sensations and thoughts
- Release
- Relaxation
- Healing
- Empowering state of mind
Here’s what I have to say about my visit:
3. Club Femdom
Come join us and be part of London’s Femdom Community and celebrate the power of Femdom.
Club Femdom is the club that celebrates the supremacy of the Female Dominant. The emphasis is on style, glamour and high protocol service.
At Club Femdom one can expect a large playspace which will include a large trample cage, rope area, spanking benches etc. A team of house subs, slaves and service sluts will be continually trained and assessed to ensure the highest of standards.
Club Femdom is for:
- Boys and girls who are looking for a Domme to play with them
- Those who wish to experience being served in a high protocol environment
- Those who wish to experience serving in a high protocol environment
- Ladies who may be looking for a slave/sub/servant
- Ladies who may like to experience playing with other subs/slaves etc……
- Ladies that like to introduce new subs/slaves/servants to high Femdom protocol
- Slaves/subs/servants who revel in serving or even just observing Dominant Ladies
- Anyone who likes Femdom!
Here’s what I have to say about my visit:
4. One Night
This is a space for our pleasure, education, entertainment and liberation. It’s a space in which we encourage you to uplift and empower one another. We hope that when you leave, you leave as part of a community as well as a leaving from a night that will continue to play on your mind...
One Night was born out of a love for sexual spaces, but a disdain for entitled men. Mainstream clubs and bars have shown us how predatory and intrusive male-centric spaces can be, with even mixed-gender sex parties often feeling intimidating, cautionary or tailored to the desires of cisgender males.
One Night is an event series where femme-leaning people can meet other like-minded individuals, explore their sexuality or/and develop friendships without feeling any pressure to engage in sex or look a certain way. It is a space which welcomes women and femme-leaning non-binary people of all ethnic backgrounds, social backgrounds, body types, sexual preferences and ages.
One Night was established informally in 2016 but has been run from various equipped spaces like:
- Play parties
- Socials and panels
- Collaborations with other events and organizations
Here’s what I have to say about my visit:
5. Skirt Club
With their members craving meaningful bonds, we created a community beyond the allure of novelty and parties. It's time for women to discover what they truly want and create the connections they deserve.
In a world where it’s now socially acceptable to be gay or straight, there is little recognition for the grey area that sits between. Skirt Club’s mission is to build an exclusive all-female community for empowerment and sexual discovery. A network of professional women with a common interest.
Skirt Club is a community space created by women, for women. It’s a space for self-exploration and play, and fills a gap addressed by no other community worldwide. The parties provide a safe haven to live out female fantasies at your complete discretion.
A decade ago, Skirt Club ignited a sexual awakening with the first party for bi-curious and bisexual women, sparking a journey that has since united thousands of women globally through thousands of events.
A Skirt Club event in a nutshell is:
- Private exclusive locations
- Welcome drinks & first timers introduction
- Dress up theme for the night
- Sexy warm-up games
- Intimacy and play
- Community & networking
Here’s what I have to say about my visit:
These are Anna's event tips for female-focused events in London! Have you ever been to an event like this before? OR are you interested in going? Let us know in the forum!
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- With over 5 million members, JOYclub is a lively, sex-positive community that will turn your love life completely upside down.
- Whether you're male, female, trans, single or a couple, JOYclub is the place to discover and live out your erotic fantasies with other members (with your partner, if you like).
- Curious? Then register for free and without obligation and discover the fascinating JOYclub world. We are looking forward to meeting you!
