BDSM-lovers like the power imbalance that results from dominance and submission. This is usually acted out in sexual role-playing games. The so-called paypig submits to his mistress in a very unusual way.
Unusual offers on the Internet
"Welcome to the homepage of Lady Sandra, the gateway to your Paypig world!"
Good. Dominas in paint and leather are what the fetish-friends are used to when venturing into the infinite web of desires and passions. Whether it's a slave center, a marquis circle or a domina gallery: with just a few Google clicks, you're in the virtual dungeon, where there are offers that the average person has certainly never heard of.
On Lady Sandra's page we read the following: "Hello you nothing! - Are you looking for a merciless money mistress who will suck you dry and use you? - Then you've come to the right place ... I am the Lady, I love it when my slaves give me luxury and spoil me and I can really use them up. I am beautiful, intelligent, dominant and I want everything and I want it from you now."
Paypigs want to remain anonymous
What is the difference between a normal dominatrix studio visitor and a paying pig? We can assume a submissive inclination in both cases without further investigation. While the real studio guest has to appear on site to receive special treatment, the money slave usually prefers to remain anonymous.
Ferdy89 is just anyone, and for the purposes of the procedure this is perfectly adequate. Bank director Mr Smith may simply be "Bert" in the studio, but he is there in the flesh. While Bert is tied to the cross for his money, or else beaten with a paddle, Paypig Ferdy actually has no direct benefit from his actions.
How does the "Paypigging" work?
The money slave lands on the page of his beloved. A click occurs and he is convinced that he has to serve the lady pictured in a special way. He enters a world of thought, recognises his calling and immediately searches the site for bank details or other payment options.
What kind of people are paypigs?
Who lives out such a fetish? Finding a real specimen wasn't easy, but with a little effort we managed it. Rolf is a Paypig and has paid around 20,000 to a dominatrix in recent years.
Rolf is in his mid-40s, works for a health insurance company and fell for a Paypig provider called Ramona a good two years ago. Although Rolf describes himself as submissive, nobody in his family knows about his inclination. He lives with his wife and children and has paid Ramona around 20,000 euros over the past few years.
He would never enter a dominatrix studio, he is inconspicuous and timid. As his account has been overdrawn for a long time and he even secretly took out a loan, he sought professional help from a psychologist a few weeks ago, who is now helping him to fight his addiction.
She was so authoritative
Rolf, you are a paypig or money slave ...
Rolf: Yes, I've already told you how it came about. I discovered Ramona's page on the internet and I was hooked. The great pictures, her personality ... I couldn't stop looking at it. And then I emailed Ramona. She captivated me with her reply. She was so authoritative!
What do you mean by that?
Rolf: She made it clear to me that I had to pay. That she needed a lot of money for her lifestyle, that she didn't want any more questions and that my role was clearly defined. I then paid up! Even if it sounds stupid: I had to pay in order to have any contact with her at all.
Have you ever seen her or at least spoken to her on the phone?
Rolf: No, she doesn't feel like it. I got an e-mail every week. Personally, just for me. Saying that money was running out again and she urgently needed new shoes or something similar. What was I supposed to do?
Euro after euro went to Paypal
You don't want an honest answer to that ...
Rolf: Ramona really got in my head. I didn't want to meet her either, but I convinced myself that I was important to her, even if only as a financier. Stupid, but I couldn't help it. So euro after euro went to Paypal.
Didn't it ever occur to you that you were under an illusion?
Rolf: Unfortunately not! It was only when I ran out of money that I turned to a friend who is a psychologist.
And what did he say?
Rolf: It was nothing new for him, he knew a similar case. Among us secret devotees, there are probably a lot of people who are like that. And it's not easy to fight it. After all, Ramona is the mistress ... no ... it was her.Money mistress receives gifts
It's a good thing that there are partner programs and interfaces to online stores, Paypal and the like. This allows the money mistress to post items with pictures that are directly linked to stores and enable the slave to order immediately. Paypal also enables money transfers in minutes and Amazon gift vouchers are also a hit! More mundane are 0900 numbers with a fixed amount transferred per call. But every little bit helps.
The benefits for the money mistress are obvious: in addition to household items, books, wine gift boxes, travel vouchers and flowers, "cash" also goes into the till. Apart from a few arrogant serial emails and insistent requests for payment in the same way, the organizational effort is limited. Annoying pigs are weeded out early on anyway. Women don't want to be constantly emailing and answering stupid questions, unless there is a particularly great benefit. But this is where the evaluation becomes difficult, as you are dealing with anonymous people.
Slave punishes himself through financial pain
But what use does the slave get from it? - He sends gifts and money to an anonymous and perhaps only virtual lady. All he gets in return are pictures and texts on a homepage. Superficially correct!
But there is also the aspect of financial pain, which should not be ignored. Money is not only sent by people who have too much of it, but also by "pigs" who secretly steal it from the family coffers. This can really "hurt" and that is probably the purpose of the exercise. You punish yourself, but you have the feeling that you have been punished.
It could be a harmless thing if the paypig providers weren't playing with dependencies and exploiting needs (which can of course also happen at any time in a real dominatrix studio). A small game with a few bouquets of flowers can quickly turn into an intensive payment burden, comparable to an addiction that requires a virtual "dealer". A certain unscrupulousness must not be missing on the supplier side, because: The only thing being sold here is air, which someone else really wants!
It is not punishable to make people dependent in this way, but I would prefer not to make a moral assessment. No supply without demand!
What does the psychologist say?
As you read in the interview, Paypig Rolf went to see a psychologist. This is what the expert says about Paypigging:
"Men who become money slaves usually have a disturbed personality and an associated erotic abnormality. They often believe that they have to punish themselves for something they have supposedly done. This can be on a sexual level, but can also be rooted in upbringing or social status.
Anonymity is important, people are ashamed of their inclination and would never think of living out submissive/dominant fantasies in the real world. The behaviour is self-harming, because spending money and giving away other valuables will eventually tear a hole.
And then things get tight ... when you can no longer "give", you feel worthless and can easily fall into depression because the special relationship or dependency that is perceived as overly important is no longer there."
Text: Howard Chance, this article is from the PO Magazine November / December 2009 and was kindly made available to us.
What do you think: Does this go too far? Are paypigs themselves responsible for their actions or is the dominatrix in the wrong? Feel free to share your thoughts in the forum!
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