Embarking on a journey of sensual shibari with Anna Kii was a transformative experience that beautifully blended artistry, trust, and deep relaxation. The session was not just about the physical act of tying but about creating a serene space where the mind could drift away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life—something I did not expect to come from a shibari experience.
By Venus Libido
Venus Libido is a qualified Sex Educator, Sex and relationships coach and training Clinical Sexologist and relationships therapist. For the last three years, Venus has been working in the field of sex education, sex toys and pleasure, endometriosis awareness and helping others when it comes to sexual wellness, intimacy, dating and relationship.
A Calm Oasis
From the moment the session began, I felt an immediate sense of calm wash over me. Anna's skilful hands moved with precision and care, her every motion deliberate and gentle. The ropes, made from soft cotton, caressed my skin as they were wrapped around me, creating a sensation that was both soothing and grounding. It was easy to surrender to the moment, let go of the outside world, and sink into a state of deep relaxation as Anna ensured her hands were always
grounded on my body.
The room was warm and inviting, a cosy haven that enhanced the intimacy of the experience. As each knot was tied, I felt a growing sense of tranquillity, a feeling of being securely held within the ropes and the experience itself.
The Beauty of Shibari
Shibari, often misunderstood as a purely rough or intense practice, revealed itself to me in its true form — an art that can be as gentle and sensual as one desires. It's a practice that adapts to the needs and boundaries of those involved. With Anna, it was clear that the essence of shibari lies in the connection it fosters between the individuals.
Before our session, we communicated openly about what felt right and what didn't, ensuring a safe and consensual experience. This mutual understanding allowed us to explore the sensuality of shibari without any discomfort or pain. Instead, it was a beautiful dance of movement and stillness, of binding and releasing, that left me feeling more connected to myself.
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Interview with Anna Ties Knots
To gain deeper insight into the world of shibari, I spoke with Anna about her passion for this unique art form.
What do you love most about shibari, and what do you gain from the experience you have with others in that moment of tying?
Anna: "For me, binding the body is a connection that takes skill and an eye for aesthetics. I am proud that I have this special skill and that I can share this experience with another person. I enjoy the movement and restriction of the body in rope also.”
What are three things you want people to know before exploring shibari?
Anna: "Basic things which also apply to any BDSM play: Consent, Safety, and Connection. Shibari play can mean different things for different people — it's difficult to pinpoint one specific thing. Some people enjoy the play, and there are others more drawn to the aesthetics. At its core, it connects people and it is also very sensual! Remember to communicate with each other. And relax, it's a bonding experience and it's fun!"
What are your top tips for people new to shibari?
Anna: "Find a willing partner you feel comfortable with. Take your time—set a few hours in a nice, cozy, heated environment to create a nice and relaxed atmosphere where that bondage magic can happen. A good set of ropes is essential (about 6-8 lengths). Use Hemp and Jute for suspension and cotton for sensual play (nice and soft!). For further in-depth study, I can recommend Anatomie, a dedicated Shibari studio in London (where I studied too!). YouTube has a lot of good videos, but there's a lot of censoring unfortunately."
Conclusion
My experience with Anna was more than just an introduction to shibari; it was an exploration of connection, trust and sensual tying. Shibari doesn't have to be about pain or intensity — it can be a gentle, sensual journey that leaves you feeling calm, connected, and deeply relaxed and in tune with your body. For anyone curious about shibari, I highly recommend finding a knowledgeable and compassionate guide like Anna to help you discover the magic of this ancientart.
Also head to Anna's Shibari group to learn, explore and indulge even more!
Is shibari associated with roughness and intensity for you or have you discovered the sensual side of it as well? Let us know in the forum!
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