Perverted, bizarre or normal after all? People who call themselves kinky have a wide variety of sexual fantasies and fetishes. Society is often prejudiced against them. But does kinky always mean bizarre? We clear away prejudices!
Definitely kinky?
Maybe you've heard the term kinky before or maybe you already call yourself kinky. If you've never heard the term before, you're not alone! The term itself is still relatively new. Kink describes in the sailor language and in northern German a knot or error in the rope. Transferred to sexuality: Kink as a supposed error in sexuality.
What is “kinky” is always derived from what is considered "normal". So far so vague. Because what is normal? And what, accordingly, is not normal? What is clear: Kinky is not clearly defined! Everyone decides for themselves what is kinky and what is not.
What does kinky mean?
The word “kinky” is often associated with perversion. But the modern usage of kinky has nothing to do with an actual medical diagnosis. Roughly speaking, kinky describes the opposite of vanilla sex. Nevertheless, even kink - no matter how wild it gets in your bedroom - only works with consent.
Here's a thought experiment: You've only had sex in the missionary position so far. Then even a simple change of position can be kinky to you. For others, kinky starts with feather play or latex clothing. But kinky can also be a term to encompass everything that is classified as being outside of a societal norm. This includes any type of BDSM play.
The term covers a wide range of sexual practices and fetishes. Sex doesn’t always have to play a role.You can also be kinky without having sex. The diving into another world is enough to call yourself kinky. Acting out an object fetish is kinky, too!
Contrary to some prejudices, kinky does not denote forbidden or abnormal practices. The opposite is the case: those who are kinky have to pay special attention to consent! In the BDSM area, for example, the SSC principle (safe, sane, consensual) is capitalized. As with any sex practice, it's important to respect the boundaries of your counterpart. If you live out your kink consensually, it has nothing to do with abnormality.
Kinky starts in the head
Have you ever had sexual fantasies and thoughts that got your pulse racing? Or have you played out an entire scenario in your head and couldn't wait to turn it into reality?
Then you have the best prerequisites to be a kinkster! Because people who describe themselves as kinky usually live out precisely these fantasies within their community. They trust their intuition and let their lust guide them. In a BDSM session, kinksters slip into a role and give themselves over to their fetishes and inclinations - whatever they may be.
Often the acting out of fantasies is described as a personal development or as a breakthrough of blockades. Which is why the self-designation as kinky within the scene is not an insult. For many it is explicitly about making clear:
Kinky doesn’t always mean the same
Kinky remains a broad term. Not everyone understands it to mean the same thing. A first step might be to determine what is your kink. Is it a foot fetish? Are you tempted by golden shower games? Interested in BDSM? Do you want to submit or would you rather dominate someone?
Aren't we all a little kinky?
Once you know what your kink is, you can start looking for a suitable partner. Before kinky sex takes place, you should clearly communicate to your counterpart what your preferences and boundaries are. If there is mutual trust, nothing stands in the way of a kinky time!
Do you feel that you’re kinky?
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