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I have been wondering: Is polyamory maybe right for me?

I have never tried, but in hindsight I find that it is probably me. But then... I don't know how polyamory functions, is defined or what it feels like. I am often in a relationship and fall in love with other people. Then I wish I could love them both. Ultimately it leads to break up and new start with a new exclusive partner and the circle continues.

Could polyamory be a way out of this vicious cycle for me? How do I date then? How am I going to bring up the conversation? How much have people to deal with jealousy? How is love shared? How am I going to learn living a poly lifestyle?

I would want to have a community of at least four people, ideally living together and loving being around each other.

Yes, I am wondering!

Being polyamorous sometimes feels like a bit of a science project, there is a lot to learn and to unpack. Generally: to find out if it is something for you trying it out or talking to people with experience is a good start. Finding people open to polyamory can be done different ways, you could find people who already are poly, try to learn from them and maybe find people with whom you have good chemistry.
One thing you should be prepared for is that polyamory requires a lot of communication and openness, trust is super important.
Monogamy gives people a sense of security by coming with a lot of unwritten rules, like it usually being not okay to fuck other people, but it also comes with a lot of unclear territory, e.g. one partner thinks kissing other people is fine, the other sees it as an overstepped lines.
Polyamory often tries to have less of these unwritten rules and start clean and fresh with talking about wants and needs.
Going from simply deciding not to live monogamously anymore to living together in a complex constellation like multiple people living together takes quite a journey.
My best advice: Go and seek poly people, you can learn from them. Don't be scared to be one of the new people and also don't feel like you are "not poly enough" or something, especially if you have one or no partners. If you are in a monogamous relationship right now starting to be poly can put a strain on your existing relationship though, so if so start talking about it with your partner.

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Can't believe I started it all. And I am on a journey! After years of not understanding and even daring to think about it, I have set my profile to say I am poly and have a conversation with my partner.

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Hallo, ich bin hier und nächsten Monat in Deutschland. Wer sich gerne vorher vernetzen möchte.

We can confirm that is wonderful! We had a long 7 years relationship with a girl. It is not for everyone but is for sure an experience worth having

I have been poly since 2008. At this point, my opinion is that you get to pick your poison. Both monogamy and polyamory offer medicine.
I have mostly drifted away from the poly community because I am not turned on by constantly processing jealousy and other emotions with my lovers and their lovers.
That said, I am not monogamous and I love multiple people. I am up front with my lovers about that.