Consent is sexy

A look of desire and a kiss… it all starts and goes from there… the more passionate the faster it goes

I love to slowly tell a partner exactly what I would like to do with them. This can be an incredibly hot way to begin foreplay! For example, I might approach them with a hungry look in my eyes and say "I really want to pull your pants down right now!" then wait and watch as their eyes widen with delight and they (hopefully) nod eagerly and say "YES!"

Interesting question! I've always been more on the side of encouraging others to tell me what they want, so the question of consent has never really come up for me.

I did one time ask a girl, just as we were getting started, "how do you like it?" (just trying to find out what she wanted, or was into), and she kinda freaked out. She thought I was just asking if she wanted anal, and didn't really know how to respond. The next day I got a message from her saying that she didn't think we were a good match (or something like that), and that was the end of it.

I guess my directness backfired! I thought the night went well, but she apparently didn't...

THIS! gets me on every time.

Ich bin auch vorzugsweise der Typ, der der Partnerin die Initiative überlässt und gerne darauf zustimmend reagiert.
Will die Lady aber meine Initiative, beginne ich mit einschmeichelnder Musik (L'Amourhatscher in der Diktion von Erika Pluhar) und Küssen, mit vorerst vorsichtigem Vortasten der Hände unter Beachtung ihrer Reaktion.
Verbale Kommunikation über meine Vorstellungen - um ihr nahezubringen, wo meine Möglichkeiten und (altersbedingten) Grenzen sind (damit sie auch möglichst auf ihre Rechnung kommt) - bewähren sich eher abseits des Bettes.