Shrouded in so much scientific mystery, squirting can come with a bunch of dated stigma, but what do we really know about it?
What is squirt?
Squirt is clouded in scientific mystery and there are still so many unanswered questions around it — what exactly it is and if all people with a vulva can squirt are still debating topics. While ‘squirt’ and ‘ejaculation’ are often used interchangeably, some studies have shown that there is a clear difference between the two — squirt is a more watery fluid that comes out in a display of splaying projection, a flow or trickling out, while ejaculation is a milky, white fluid that tends to be a bit thicker.
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Both expel from the vulva-vaginal area during pleasure, from the urethral and paraurethral glands. Either can be voluntary or involuntary, but overall there can still be a fair amount of stigma or shame surrounding squirting (squirting and peeing are very much different acts that are both valid). It can equally be seen as a bit of a golden goal — something that stands as a badge of honour. If you’re enthusiastic about squirting or making someone squirt, think about why you want to do it.
It’s a genuine way our bodies respond to pleasure and can be a delicious and beautiful mess, or provide different sensations and experiences, but just check your ego at the door. Squirting is a marvellous thing and can come on its own, accompanying an orgasm or through clitorial, vaginal and anal stimulation — it’s really quite versatile, but there is a level of comfort and arousal needed. Just like an orgasm, squirting is a mental and physical thing.
How to squirt
There’s a whole spectrum of feelings around squirting — while some report feeling embarrassed at making an unexpected mess, others can feel pressure to perform or like they’re lacking by not gushing on demand. Whether you’re wanting to practise squirting on your own or with a partner or partners, come at this with conscious intentions. Consider why you want to squirt and make sure there’s trust carved out in the space. Our bodies are beautifully unique and there isn’t one single way to make everyone with a vulva squirt, so communication and attunement come in strong here.
While squirting shouldn’t be centred as a goal, there are a few things that can encourage it. Depending on the time and person, it can be something that just happens, or something that comes from consciously engaging with the pelvic floor. A combination of squeezing through kegels, pushing/bearing down so that the vaginal walls flower and putting some pressure on the abdomen can create more of an active response to squirting.
You don’t need penetration to squirt (again, everyone is different) so it’s worth playing around with different techniques and toys. Air pulsation toys, like the Satisfyer, or wands with mighty vibration can help with a clitoral-led squirt. For something internal, try a toy like the NJoy G Spot Metal Wand (or use fingers). It can be a bit more tricky to squirt if there’s a toy within the vaginal canal (it’ll be blocking the exit route), so taking a toy out after stimulating the G spot might help with this.
Enjoy the experience of trying out some tips to try and help with squirting, but don’t make it the goal. If you squirt? Awesome. If you don’t? Awesome.
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